Individuals as couples
I used to hold the view that a couple are just two individuals in a relationship. Therefore the deeds, words, behaviour, or viewpoint of one should not be presumed to be binding on the other.
I have since changed my stand.
If the one has unacceptable traits, and the other never protests or apologises for them, then the only logical conclusion is that they share the same values, that the one acts, speaks, thinks the same as the other.
The earlier stand is an intellectual notion conceived by naive expectations of a young forgiving mind; the latter is harsh reality brutally driven into the conscious by the experience of life and passage of time.
p.s. I miss being young and dumb.
4 comments:
I wouldn't think the other necessarily agrees. It might be more a case of giving face to the partner by not disagreeing in public? Or taking the path of least resistance by not disagreeing.
wildgoose - i used to believe like you and actually feel sorry for the "nice" one. sadly, not anymore.
hmm.. i tend to agree with wg. its very tiring to argue all the time, even tho there are a lot of things that i dont agree with my partner on. maybe, sometimes i just want to zone out after a hard day a work.
but i do notice i argue more with my partner on the weekends tho. not publicly of cos but definitely more so cos i am more well rested :)
edpjunkie - don't argue lah. i talking about seriously bad things these people do and they don't stop each other.
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