This too is love
Her husband died unexpectedly after a very short illness. She works at two low-paying jobs to make enough to raise two young children. She is 40.
He lost his wife to illness recently. There are no children, and he has no other relatives living here. Financially he is extremely comfortable. He is 60.
He looks to her for companionship. He sees her as providing the family environment he wants. In return, he will see to her financial needs and provide a secure environment for her and her children.
She is hesitant because she is not in love with him.
I say she must look at this as a workable and viable relationship that is mutually beneficial.
And in time, she will learn to love him. This, too, is love.
4 comments:
I agree. Love certainly needs time to grow. Hope all turns out well for them. :)
Your advice is very sound & practical, but i do find it scary when one party is not in love. Their age-gap is a little big lah!
You know how as kids, our idea of love comes with a knight in shining armour? and every couple is a copy of Barbie and Ken?
i think im still a traditional romantic at heart, it took me a while to accept that love is more than what is depicted in fairy tales. It is tough to find a perfect couple, whether in terms of looks, age, personality and interests.
i am at the age where ladies start to worry if they do not get married. but i strongly believe that for people around my age group, it is tantamount to giving up hope of finding 'The One' when anyone settles for anyone less. hence, it gets me a little down whenever i think that any of my friends is doing that.
But I guess your friend's situation is different, with kids and so on. At a relatively less hormone-driven age, it is more relevant for her to focus on the 'attachment' stage of love ( http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/index.shtml#for_against1)
we will all be getting together very soon for dinner. Can discuss this till the cows come home ok?
wg - i met the guy. i strongly believe it will work.
suziewong - being old and poor is more scary than being looked after by an older rich man
edpj - thanks for putting things in perspective. and welcome home!
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