Ok. I understand. Sorry I have disturbed u both with my problem. Thanks. Bye
I have read and re-read the sms countless times since receiving it some 3 months ago. I cannot decide if there is resignation or resentment in those words.
We met in Bali. She was the resident belly dancer in a restaurant and we struck up what I thought was a friendship. We kept in touch by sms and email. And some time over the next year or so, she left Bali for Jakarta. Her villa in Bali was put up for holiday rental.
Then I got email and sms from her saying that she was in desperate financial trouble. That she was putting the villa in Bali up for sale. That she could not get a loan from any bank. That she desperately needed to borrow USD20,000 from me to tie her over the next 3 months.
Alarm bells went off in my head. Was it reasonable to ask to borrow money from someone one met on vacation? Why was she not asking to borrow from her friends and relatives in Jakarta? Was this whole scenario for real? Was she for real?
After mulling over the situation for a full day and night, I sms'ed to her:
I am in no position to lend you any sum of money.
Her reply:
Ok. I understand. Sorry I have disturbed u both with my problem. Thanks. Bye
I cannot decide if there was resignation or resentment in those words. It bothered me for reasons I am not able to articulate.
I looked up her villa in Bali online. It is still hers; it is still being put up for holiday rental.
I know I will never hear from her again.
I understand now that the"friendship" was pegged at USD20,000. And so, with equal parts resignation and resentment, I deleted her from my contact list.