What's love got to do with it
The girlfriend mentioned the notion of open-relationships - something the guys were bantering about.
It has been a very long time since I bothered to explore concepts of alternative love-styles.
I am a product of the 70s counter-culture in fashion, thought and being. The era - for all its beauty and failings - defined the person I am today. Certainly I've lived the "free love"
lifestyle of the time. It felt good and right to toss out the hypocritical societal constraints that governed society in the 50s and early 60s, and have the freedom to love - anyone, anytime, anywhere. A lot of us crashed and burned in that experiment in sexual revolution. But with hindsight, I still defend the movement for its innocence and honesty.
I find today's notion of an "open relationship" too cold, calculated and contrived. The parties talk through and agree on clear-cut set rules of sexual conduct with other parties.
I view open relationship as granting permission to be promiscuous. No where in this arrangement does love, even at the most superficial and lusty level, come into play.
I say if you want to sleep around, just go ahead. Saying no is not going to stop anybody anyway.
My closing thoughts on open relationships? Can it, dudes. You are trying to sell a bill of goods. Cheating is a nobler option, and it certainly is a lot simpler.
4 comments:
I agree that there can be no love at all in an open relationship. It's just asking for all the benefits of a long-term relationship without the responsibilities that come with it.
But cheating is just hypocritical, and all the lies that come with it. I don't see how it's simpler or nobler.
wildgoose - aiyoh-i am just so appalled with the open relationship proposition that anything, ANYTHING is more noble. Cheating is simpler - the guilty gets all the blame. there!
everything comes down to the person him/herself. there are some who thinks porn is good too, for many 'health' reasons. keeping up the vigor, interest in sex, etc.
er.. i have no right to say if that's good or not.
anyway, love comes in strange forms these days. but i think at the end of the day, money still talks! :P
tuti - sometimes money talks too much! hehe
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