Thursday, March 04, 2010

Not missing her

She is an old schoolmate. We've known each other just about all our lives.

We are not anything alike. I am sure we get on each other's nerves often. But as we are wont to do with people whom we have known all our lives, we overlook all incidents over time.

So she continues to ask insolent questions. In response, I sometimes answer her with a measure of rebuke, other times I tell her bluntly it's not any of her business.

And her insensitivity grows.

Right before my recent trip to the US, she blithely asked that I say hello to the ex since I would be in California and to tell him she remembered him fondly. My straightforward response was that the ex no longer lived in California, and even if he did, I would not be looking him up.

Right after my return, she nonchalantly asked if I had "resolved" everything in California. I gave her a piece of advice about her insistent inconsiderate remarks, and then gave her a piece of my mind.

I have not heard back from her in over a week now. Maybe, with luck, I won't ever again.

And I find I'm not missing her at all.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

i find that some girlfriends that i know forever also tend to ask insensitive questions, probe too much or are just plain rude. sometimes people dont realise that we all grew up and learnt that some things tolerated during childhood is not acceptable in the adult world at all.
~EDPJ

sinlady said...

edpj - yup. it's like that. better to give each other wide berth and just stay away for as long as necessary.

imp said...

aiyoh. and you've tolerated her for this long instead of kicking her out of your life like 20 years ago??! you've got patience, woman.

zewt said...

i suppose "the ex" is your ex? quite busy body indeed.

sinlady said...

imp - i think i've been too lazy to react :)

zewt - yes my ex.