Sunday, October 02, 2011

September

was the month
that the pieces finally fell in place. I can see and think clearly again.

I had an epiphany about people who can only be described as a**holes. Of these, there are family and non-family. Whereas I used to shun the family but did my best to accommodate the non-family ones, I have made an about-face turn. I will suffer and put up with the a**holes in the family; all others will have to find their own emotional punching bag.

To certain somebodies who recently blindsided me with "We don't understand, but we do not(will not?) ask", I have this to say: "Real friends do not question; real friends ask". And I did ask. I got an evasive non-answer. I do not question, but the ball is back in said somebodies' court.

I am glad the harsh Summer season is coming to an end.

I welcome the richer and more sophisticated season that is Fall.

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your somebodies will not understand the difference between do not question and do not ask - RF

Anonymous said...

some friends (and relatives) are painful to keep. when possible, it's best to move on, without them.
the relatives cannot be dumped that easily, but i have acquired the art of putting them aside gently. anyway in my situation, i know the relatives will come milling around when they see me 'rich' again. :P
glad you held your ground. cyber friends are so supportive, eh? lol!
(but they are!!)
-tuti

Jo said...

If you ask, and receive an evasive non-answer, then I guess there's nothing else you can do, but just be there for them. I too encounter people like this. It's frustrating, but they have every right to keep their problems to themselves too. As long as we know we did our best...

sinlady said...

RF - sigh.

tuti - unquestioningly and unwaveringly so lol.

jomel - it's more a case of seeing how little we mean to them but i'm over the matter now :)

Jo said...

Yes I know exactly how you feel. But think of it this way, it's not always about us, just as how it's not always about them. Circumstances like this requires us to be nonchalant.. like, so be it, whatever.. know what I mean? :)

wildgoose said...

Sometimes, it's their own inabilities to face up to issues, and not you that is an issue to them.

I'm not sure I welcome the rains. The ants are attempting to move into my room again!

sinlady said...

jomel - yes, i know what you mean. thanks :)

wildgoose - and sometimes, you can be so insightful heheh. thanks.

oh, ants know how to siam all the bad stuff - too hot outside, to wet outside, and they move indoors.

imp said...

Lifelong pain. How we choose to deal with them is almost like the seasons. Our methods of 'management' will change according to what the season requires. As lomas you've got your inner peace without being too pissef off, I say you'll do alright. Hugs.

imp said...

*as long as , not lomas. Silly iPad.

sinlady said...

imp - i still get all pissed off when it is brought up. but, like the seasons, it will change when the time comes. i am, otherwise, fine thanks :)

notabilia said...

email me? i'd love to meet up!

sinlady said...

notabilia - i just did, and let's do:)

dancingbunny said...

just like some people like to pretend to be friends, but they never have you in their hearts yet love to show how "caring" they are when it comes to a chance to show off their "loving-ness"

sinlady said...

bunny - yup. i just don't know why they bother to pretend in the first place.